Njohja e karakterit t\u00eb nj\u00eb njeriu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga sfidat m\u00eb t\u00eb vjetra t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb njer\u00ebzore. Q\u00eb nga lasht\u00ebsia, filozof\u00ebt, mendimtar\u00ebt dhe shkrimtar\u00ebt jan\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb thelbin e natyr\u00ebs njer\u00ebzore dhe m\u00ebnyrat p\u00ebr ta zbuluar at\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ku paraqitja shpesh mashtron, pyetja mbetet e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb: si mund ta kuptojm\u00eb se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb v\u00ebrtet dikush?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Karakteri zbulohet n\u00eb v\u00ebshtir\u00ebsi<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Filozofi grek Epikteti thoshte: “Nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb era ajo q\u00eb e formon anijen, por mjeshtria e kapitenit.” N\u00eb k\u00ebt\u00eb kuptim, karakteri i njeriut shfaqet m\u00eb qart\u00eb kur ai p\u00ebrballet me sprova. P\u00ebr shembull, nj\u00eb njeri q\u00eb nuk e humbet durimin n\u00eb nj\u00eb situat\u00eb tensioni, q\u00eb nuk hakmerret kur keqtrajtohet, por zgjedh t\u00eb reagoj\u00eb me dinjitet, jep nj\u00eb d\u00ebshmi t\u00eb fuqishme p\u00ebr karakterin e tij.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. V\u00ebzhgimi i marr\u00ebdh\u00ebnieve me m\u00eb t\u00eb dob\u00ebtit<\/p>\n\n\n\n
N\u00ebse do t\u00eb donim nj\u00eb tregues t\u00eb qart\u00eb p\u00ebr karakterin, duhet t\u00eb shohim se si nj\u00eb person i trajton ata q\u00eb nuk i sjellin p\u00ebrfitime, f\u00ebmij\u00ebt, t\u00eb moshuarit, pun\u00ebtor\u00ebt e thjesht\u00eb. Nj\u00eb shembull prek\u00ebs \u00ebsht\u00eb ai i nj\u00eb drejtuesi q\u00eb, ndon\u00ebse me shum\u00eb angazhime, ndalet p\u00ebr t\u00eb ndihmuar pastruesen e zyr\u00ebs q\u00eb mbart nj\u00eb krah me dosje. Ai gjest i vog\u00ebl, shpesh i pav\u00ebrejtur nga t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt, flet m\u00eb shum\u00eb se fjalimet publike p\u00ebr \u201cetik\u00ebn e pun\u00ebs\u201d.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Besnik\u00ebria ndaj fjal\u00ebs dhe p\u00ebrgjegj\u00ebsis\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Konfuci theksonte: “Njeriu i madh \u00ebsht\u00eb i q\u00ebndruesh\u00ebm n\u00eb fjal\u00eb dhe i besuesh\u00ebm n\u00eb vepra.” Nj\u00eb person q\u00eb mban premtimet, q\u00eb p\u00ebrballon pasojat e veprimeve t\u00eb veta dhe nuk gjen justifikime p\u00ebr d\u00ebshtimet, tregon nj\u00eb karakter t\u00eb formuar dhe nj\u00eb integritet t\u00eb brendsh\u00ebm.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Zgjedhjet e p\u00ebrditshme dhe p\u00ebrputhshm\u00ebria me vlerat<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Karakteri nuk matet vet\u00ebm me nj\u00eb akt heroik. Ai form\u00ebsohet dhe d\u00ebshmohet n\u00eb zgjedhjet e p\u00ebrditshme: t\u00eb thuash t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00ebn kur \u00ebsht\u00eb e v\u00ebshtir\u00eb; t\u00eb pranosh nj\u00eb t\u00eb met\u00eb; t\u00eb ndihmosh kur askush nuk t\u00eb sheh. Filozofi gjerman Immanuel Kant e lidh karakterin me moralin: \u201cVepro gjithmon\u00eb sipas asaj maksime q\u00eb do t\u00eb d\u00ebshiroje t\u00eb b\u00ebhej ligj i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm.\u201d Pra, a do t\u00eb doje q\u00eb t\u00eb gjith\u00eb t\u00eb silleshin si ti?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. Aft\u00ebsia p\u00ebr t\u00eb falur dhe p\u00ebr t\u00eb k\u00ebrkuar falje<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Shum\u00eb e ngat\u00ebrrojn\u00eb karakterin e fort\u00eb me ashp\u00ebrsin\u00eb. N\u00eb t\u00eb v\u00ebrtet\u00eb, nj\u00eb shpirt i madh nuk e sheh dob\u00ebsi k\u00ebrkimin e faljes apo faljen e tjetrit. P\u00ebrkundrazi, k\u00ebto jan\u00eb shenja t\u00eb nj\u00eb nd\u00ebrgjegjeje t\u00eb lart\u00eb dhe t\u00eb nj\u00eb vet\u00ebdijeje q\u00eb ec\u00ebn p\u00ebrpara pa m\u00ebri.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. P\u00ebrputhja mes fjal\u00ebve dhe veprimeve<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb nga treguesit m\u00eb t\u00eb qart\u00eb t\u00eb karakterit \u00ebsht\u00eb harmonia mes asaj q\u00eb njeriu thot\u00eb dhe asaj q\u00eb b\u00ebn. Njer\u00ebzit q\u00eb flasin p\u00ebr drejt\u00ebsi por p\u00ebrfitojn\u00eb nga padrejt\u00ebsit\u00eb, apo q\u00eb predikojn\u00eb ndershm\u00ebrin\u00eb por veprojn\u00eb ndryshe, jan\u00eb shembuj t\u00eb mjerimit moral q\u00eb maskohet pas fjal\u00ebve t\u00eb bukura.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Karakteri i nj\u00eb njeriu nuk zbulohet n\u00eb sallat e m\u00ebdha, as n\u00eb fjalimet frym\u00ebzuese. Ai zbulohet n\u00eb heshtje, n\u00eb zakonet e p\u00ebrditshme, n\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00ebn se si dikush sillet kur mendon se askush nuk po e v\u00ebzhgon. Dhe n\u00eb fund t\u00eb fundit, si\u00e7 thoshte Abraham Lincoln: “N\u00ebse do t\u00eb dish karakterin e nj\u00eb njeriu, jepi pushtet.”<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Njohja e karakterit t\u00eb nj\u00eb njeriu \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb nga sfidat m\u00eb t\u00eb vjetra t\u00eb shoq\u00ebris\u00eb njer\u00ebzore. Q\u00eb nga lasht\u00ebsia, filozof\u00ebt, mendimtar\u00ebt dhe shkrimtar\u00ebt jan\u00eb p\u00ebrpjekur t\u00eb kuptojn\u00eb thelbin e natyr\u00ebs njer\u00ebzore dhe m\u00ebnyrat p\u00ebr ta zbuluar at\u00eb. N\u00eb nj\u00eb bot\u00eb ku paraqitja shpesh mashtron, pyetja mbetet e nj\u00ebjt\u00eb: si mund ta kuptojm\u00eb se kush \u00ebsht\u00eb […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":7446,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-7445","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-jeta"],"yoast_head":"\n