Libri klasik i Dale Carnegie, \u201cSi t\u00eb ndalosh s\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuari dhe t\u00eb fillosh t\u00eb jetosh\u201d, botuar fillimisht ne 1948, mbetet nj\u00eb udh\u00ebrr\u00ebfyes i vlefsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me ankth, pasiguri dhe stres t\u00eb p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm. Me nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb, Carnegie ofron k\u00ebshilla praktike q\u00eb nuk humbasin vler\u00eb me kalimin e koh\u00ebs. M\u00eb posht\u00eb jan\u00eb 8 nga m\u00ebsimet m\u00eb dometh\u00ebn\u00ebse q\u00eb p\u00ebrmbledhin thelbin e k\u00ebtij libri frym\u00ebzues.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
1. Kot\u00ebsia e shqet\u00ebsimit<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Sipas Carnegie, shqet\u00ebsimi nuk ka asnj\u00eb vler\u00eb praktike. Ai nuk mund t\u00eb ndryshoj\u00eb t\u00eb kaluar\u00ebn dhe nuk ka fuqin\u00eb t\u00eb parashikoj\u00eb t\u00eb ardhmen. Ajo q\u00eb b\u00ebn \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb vjedh\u00eb g\u00ebzimin e momentit. Autori nxit lexuesit t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrohen te gj\u00ebrat q\u00eb mund t\u2019i kontrollojn\u00eb: mendimet, veprimet dhe m\u00ebnyra e reagimit ndaj situatave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
2. T\u00eb jetosh n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Autori i librit thekson r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e p\u00ebrqendrimit n\u00eb t\u00eb tashmen. N\u00eb vend q\u00eb t\u00eb mbetemi peng i s\u00eb shkuar\u00ebs apo t\u00eb konsumojm\u00eb mendjen me t\u00eb ardhmen, ai sugjeron t\u00eb kultivojm\u00eb v\u00ebmendjen ndaj \u00e7astit t\u00eb tanish\u00ebm dhe t\u00eb m\u00ebsojm\u00eb t\u00eb gjejm\u00eb k\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi n\u00eb detajet e vogla t\u00eb jet\u00ebs s\u00eb p\u00ebrditshme.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
3. Fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndryshojn\u00eb jet\u00ebn<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb nga teknikat m\u00eb t\u00eb njohura q\u00eb Carnegie prezanton \u00ebsht\u00eb kjo: Pyet veten: cili \u00ebsht\u00eb rasti m\u00eb i keq q\u00eb mund t\u00eb ndodh\u00eb? P\u00ebrgatitu p\u00ebr ta pranuar. Pastaj p\u00ebrpiqu ta p\u00ebrmir\u00ebsosh.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Kjo qasje ndihmon n\u00eb zbutjen e ankthit dhe sjell m\u00eb shum\u00eb qet\u00ebsi p\u00ebrball\u00eb sfidave.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
4. Kostoja e lart\u00eb e hakmarrjes<\/p>\n\n\n\n
T\u00eb mbash m\u00ebri dhe t\u00eb k\u00ebrkosh hakmarrje do t\u00eb thot\u00eb t\u00eb ushqesh negativitetin brenda vetes. Carnegie k\u00ebshillon faljen dhe largimin nga e kaluara p\u00ebr t\u00eb krijuar hap\u00ebsir\u00eb p\u00ebr paqe dhe lumturi.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
5. A do ta shisje jet\u00ebn t\u00ebnde p\u00ebr nj\u00eb milion dollar\u00eb?<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Nj\u00eb ushtrim i thjesht\u00eb mir\u00ebnjohjeje q\u00eb Carnegie sugjeron \u00ebsht\u00eb t\u00eb mendosh p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjitha t\u00eb mirat q\u00eb ke, nga sh\u00ebndeti, familja, miqt\u00eb, deri te gj\u00ebrat m\u00eb t\u00eb vogla q\u00eb zakonisht kalojn\u00eb pa u v\u00ebn\u00eb re. Kjo ndihmon n\u00eb zhvendosjen e fokusit nga ajo q\u00eb mungon, te ajo q\u00eb kemi tashm\u00eb.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
6. \u201cKurimi\u201d me angazhim<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Papun\u00ebsia mendore shpesh \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb terren pjellor p\u00ebr mendime t\u00eb err\u00ebta. Carnegie thekson se mbajtja e vetes t\u00eb z\u00ebn\u00eb me pun\u00eb produktive \u00ebsht\u00eb nj\u00eb m\u00ebnyr\u00eb shum\u00eb e mir\u00eb p\u00ebr t\u00eb mbajtur larg shqet\u00ebsimet e kota.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
7. Vendimmarrja: kund\u00ebrhelm p\u00ebr pasigurin\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Hezitimi dhe mosmarrja e vendimeve rritin ankthin. Libri k\u00ebshillon q\u00eb t\u00eb veprojm\u00eb, edhe n\u00ebse vendimi nuk \u00ebsht\u00eb ideal. Veprimi \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb i dobish\u00ebm sesa paraliza nga pasiguria.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
8. Bashk\u00ebpunim, jo konkurrenc\u00eb<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Krahasimi me t\u00eb tjer\u00ebt sjell pak\u00ebnaq\u00ebsi. Carnegie sugjeron t\u00eb p\u00ebrqendrohemi te rruga jon\u00eb personale dhe t\u00eb g\u00ebzojm\u00eb progresin ton\u00eb. Ai promovon bashk\u00ebpunimin dhe mb\u00ebshtetjen ndaj nj\u00ebri-tjetrit n\u00eb vend t\u00eb gar\u00ebs.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Bonus: Pozitiviteti dhe pushimi jan\u00eb t\u00eb domosdosh\u00ebm<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Fjal\u00ebt q\u00eb ia themi vetes kan\u00eb nj\u00eb ndikim t\u00eb jasht\u00ebzakonsh\u00ebm. Libri inkurajon z\u00ebvend\u00ebsimin e vet\u00ebkritik\u00ebs me mendime pozitive q\u00eb nxisin besimin dhe vet\u00ebvler\u00ebsimin. Gjithashtu, Carnegie thekson r\u00ebnd\u00ebsin\u00eb e gjumit t\u00eb mir\u00eb, nj\u00eb mendje e lodhur \u00ebsht\u00eb m\u00eb e brisht\u00eb p\u00ebrball\u00eb stresit dhe shqet\u00ebsimeve.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Mesazhi i p\u00ebrgjithsh\u00ebm i Carnegie \u00ebsht\u00eb i qart\u00eb: jeta \u00ebsht\u00eb shum\u00eb e vlefshme p\u00ebr t\u2019u humbur n\u00eb mendime negative. P\u00ebrmes k\u00ebtyre m\u00ebsimeve, ai u jep lexuesve mjete t\u00eb fuqishme p\u00ebr t\u00eb nd\u00ebrtuar nj\u00eb jet\u00eb m\u00eb t\u00eb qet\u00eb, t\u00eb balancuar dhe m\u00eb t\u00eb lumtur.<\/p>\n\n\n\n
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Libri klasik i Dale Carnegie, \u201cSi t\u00eb ndalosh s\u00eb shqet\u00ebsuari dhe t\u00eb fillosh t\u00eb jetosh\u201d, botuar fillimisht ne 1948, mbetet nj\u00eb udh\u00ebrr\u00ebfyes i vlefsh\u00ebm p\u00ebr t\u00eb gjith\u00eb ata q\u00eb p\u00ebrballen me ankth, pasiguri dhe stres t\u00eb p\u00ebrditsh\u00ebm. Me nj\u00eb gjuh\u00eb t\u00eb thjesht\u00eb dhe t\u00eb drejtp\u00ebrdrejt\u00eb, Carnegie ofron k\u00ebshilla praktike q\u00eb nuk humbasin vler\u00eb me kalimin […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":8240,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[6],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-8239","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","category-jeta"],"yoast_head":"\n